I tell you I gotta lot to say on this subject I hope I can get it down.
Are you in position of Authority? Supervisor, project manager, department administrator/manger? Are you in a position where you are the “only one who can do your job”? Parent, Grand parent, older sibling or just a plain Know it all?
How do you respond to this:
“If your not on this conference call you better get on it”
Or how do you respond when you ask for for something at work and your boss emails you company policy and procedures.
There are many ways to handle your self and quite frankly being ass, is not a good one to choose.
From my 7 habits daily booster:
“Taking initiative does not mean being pushy,obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibilities to make things happen”
(October 7th, 2015 – not sure who get the credit for this but its from the 7 habits of Highly effective people from Dr. Stephen Covey)
As for my example Above – “If your not on this conference call you better get on it”. I would prefer to say this like: ” Good Morning ( Name) I noticed your not on the conference call and we could use your help, would you mind joining us?”
Or When asking for for something from work. the boss should say. “You know that really doesn’t work for our company procedures but here’s what you can do to make that happen…. BTW, would you like me to send you a copy of our policy and procedures”
I know what your thinking. The first two examples were much shorter and required less talking and get the same point across, right?
Wrong, the first example made that employee that was being spoken to Feel like they were in trouble or incompetent because they were late to that conference call. Remember We have no Idea what that person might be dealing with and it is NONE of our business. Lets Repeat that – it is NONE of our business
Same goes for Example # 2.
This is also true in how we talk our Children at home. When parents are mean and yell and scream ( I admit I am guilty of this) our children feel the same way and they take that back to there own lives and how they treat people. I can see this in my own family, My oldest man child speaks to his brother in the same manner that I spoke to him.
Sorry such a long article bottom line, I have a much better attitude, my mental state is in a greater place and, my productivity is much higher when one simple speaks to me with respect, weather I did something right or wrong.
Keep that in mind next time you speak to your child, employee, boss, siblings, parents, grandparents strangers on the street.
Have a nice day. By the way, you look great today!!!
